Tolstoy got turned down too. Learn from it.
By the time I got done with college I had been on dozens of interviews and had sent out 150+ copies of my resume. No one loved me back.
Poor me. Poor everyone who didn't get the job when they should have. Dumb recruiters; it's their fault, right?
It ends up though that you learn a lot by not getting that job. I learned I was failing at interviewing because in reality I didn't want a job, I just wanted to get back to Europe, job or no job.
This business of learning by not winning is a bit like, well, the Oscars. From the New Yorker today:
About ten years ago, Louis Menand reviewed a book about the history of literary prizes. He discovered that people have always argued about them; in fact, those arguments are the point. No prize committee ever gets it right. But, by getting it wrongby passing over Tolstoy for the first Nobel Prize in literature, for exampleprizes give the rest of us a chance to talk about the art that matters to us.
The same principle is at work with the Oscars: the conversations they spark are often more interesting than the awards themselves. This year, many of those conversations have focussed, once again, on the Academys troubling lack of diversity: in a year featuring many strong African-American contenders, the Academy has nominated none in the major categories.